The Oasis Space
The Oasis Space
Sitting and Supporting In Grief w/ Sean & Rylan Harrison
We all know that grief hits us in different ways. Learning how to manage our own grief is one thing, but what about when you are supporting a partner or loved one through their grief? How does that look? Is there a such thing as too much support or not enough?
In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Sean & Rylan Harrison, to discuss the affects of grief and how it could be so deep, we may not initially even recognize it as such and therefore find it difficult to ask for the support we truly need during that traumatic time.
Additionally, we discuss:
- Alternative Coping Mechanisms to Therapy
- Steps to Heal
- Allowing Others to Support You
- Comfortability Communicating Your Needs to Others
- Challenges for Men Communicating their Needs
- Holistic Living
- Challenges with Avoiding Physical/Mental Illness
- Warning Signs to Look Out for When Dealing With and/or Supporting Through Grief
Key Takeaways/Quotes
"There's no real way around grief. You have to sit in it." - Rylan Harrison
"We push through pain, which we should not do, but we often do. Until it becomes chronic pain, and then a mental case." - Sean Harrison
"At some point, being the best partner is recognizing you have to step to the side to let someone else or let another process help the person you love." - Patrice Grimes
"I found that letting him be in his grief, [specifically with the passing of his mom] and letting him deal with it, he reached out when he needed me. - Rylan Harrison
"I was pushing her away because I ain't want her to see me hurt like I was hurting and going through because what I was moving through was ugly." - Sean Harrison
"I had to really study him, and get out my feelings a little bit and understand it wasn't personal." - Rylan Harrison
"Sometimes support looks like giving someone space." - Patrice Grimes
"We think we're burdening people with what we're going through instead of allowing them to support us." - Patrice Grimes
"Let me deal with me cause I can't make you happy, if I ain't happy." - Sean Harrison
"She learned how to step back and she learned how to love me too because what she was trying to give in that moment, I didn't want and I didn't need that. Whatever 'it' was." - Sean Harrison
"I didn't know the depths of what I was really going through so I didn't know what to communicate or say to them." - Sean Harrison
"Get your mind right and the body will follow." Sean & Rylan Harrison
"Dealing with mental illness or mental challenges, you can get so overwhelmed, they physically manifest." - Rylan Harrison
"If you don't address your wellness, you will be addressing your illness." - Rylan Harrison
Rapid Value Questions
What is one thing you like to do to sustain or reset your peace?
- Meditate (Sean)
Name one book or song that's helped you to define peace?
- The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz (Rylan)
- The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida (Sean)
How do you define peace for yourself now?
- The art of doing nothing. Honoring myself. (Rylan)
My name is Rylan and without peace, I'd probably be out of balance but with peace, I am free.
My name is Sean Harrison, and without peace, I'd probably be a total mess, but with peace, I am Godly."
LINKS:
Engage with Patrice/Inquiries/Booking
https://sociatap.com/ThePeaceCurator/
Engage with Sean/Rylan:
IG: @rylan_ashlee / @bgr8fit
https://www.toyogaandbeyond.com/
https://www.bgr8fitness.com/