Are You Responding Out of Triumph or Trauma?

SEASON 2 PREMIERE
 
How many of you have done something that you believe is with good intention?  You believe it's a triumph, but in reality it's a trauma response?

In this episode, we talk about that very thing.  How it can be detrimental to our peace if we don't actually define the source of the celebration which can be rooted in self love or self pity. 

Key Takeaways/Notable Quotes:

- 9:16: Being a "Miracle Baby," but not Recognizing Myself As One.
- For my parents, I was always known as their "miracle baby," but I hadn't always celebrated or even been celebrated as such.  That didn't come from them, my parents celebrated me. But I was not always celebrated, nor did I celebrate myself b/c I didn't act like I was a miracle."

11:22 - I told myself and tried to convince myself the day i was born, the day i was told i was a miracle baby, i really wasn't a miracle.  I was just another person on this earth that just so happened to be here. I was just another person taking up space and had to purchase a gift for.

13:52 - "it was my way to create these celebrations to brace what was gonna come. Trying to brace for the disappointment that may happen."

14:20 - "I had to come to the realization that instead of allowing the opportunity to be celebrated, i ultimately robbed my friends and family of that by trying to control the outcome myself."

14:50 - How Self Love Becomes Problematic When It's Actually Birthed Out of Self Pity

15:32 - The Difference with Self Care or Self Love is that it's preventative care. It is care and love and compassion that you are showing to yourself to sustain your well being.  You're doing it just b/c you deserve it.  Not b/c you performed, achievement, or did anything.

17:00 - "What i've learned is we will try to manufacture peace because we don't want to do the real work that it would take to eliminate us from continuing to mask the pain."

17:28 - "Who you trying to prove this to? Me or you?"

17:32 - "We put on the facade so that we don't have to do the real work to sit with the pain of "i'm really putting on this party or showing out like this b/c i'm afraid that if i don't, i'm going to be disappointed."

19:59 - "We as humans will try to mask things with clothes, or jobs or accomplishments to mask the things that are really hurting us."

25:52 - "A lot of Great Things are Birthed out of pain, but if your behaviors and actions are consistently showing up as a result of wounded pain, then you can't be operating in peace."

26:35 Unleash the Peace Method - Proclaim, Evaluate, Articulate, Comprehend, Empower

27:05 - "I was trying to manufacture peace, trying to manufacture triumph, in this situation instead of recognizing it was a trauma response."

29:02 - "How much more freeing is it to know that people love you that much that they want to take the time out celebrate you, because they always say you were the miracle, but you just didn't see it yourself."

29:25 - Operating as "A Miracle."

30:45 - Shoutouts to my Mom & Dad!

31:24 - What Areas of Your Life Have You Been Responding in Trauma instead of Triumph?

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Transcript

Ay ay ay ay ay. Welcome back to season two of the Oasis phase. I am your host Patrice
Grimes, also known as the Peace Creator. And listen, y'all but we are back for season
two. And I don't know about y'all, but I am high. I take it. If you are back then you have
also enjoyed season one of Oasis Space and on this job, you know. And so I'm going to
assume if you're back, then you must have missed me just a little bit too. You missed
the guest. And so I am just so grateful that you have continued to rock with me that you
waited for season two, to return and that you found,
Some value in this podcast. If this is your first time listening, I also want to thank you all
for joining us here in the Oasis space. I do not take it for granted at the time that you
spend listening to these episodes. And so again, I just want to thank you for being a part
of the Oasis space and joining us here today. Listen, if this is your first time, I want to let
you know that we are a community called peace pursuits.
And here in the Oasis space, we believe the definition of peace is an acronym for what
I've coined to be an acronym.
For being able to pivot even as chaos ensues. The reality is that chaos and conflict will
inevitably disrupt our lives. You know, whether that is conflicting thoughts or behaviors,
situations or even, you know, conflicts between two people, which is what most
Individuals identify Conflict to be. You know, I believe to excuse me to transform conflict
to peace, particularly in our professions and personal relationships, we must be
equipped with alternative perspectives that empower us to embrace our authentic
identity. And that's exactly what we plan to do here. You know, I provide my personal
Insight as well as Have, you know, other guests that join me here in the Oasis space
that I believe can provide some valuable
Insight for you all And, you know, just various perspectives. And that's how we get down
here. And so again, I am ecstatic that you're here and you're back for season two. Let
me tell you, my e local tour was amazing for those of you
That followed along. Thanks, right? I was mostly posting on my Instagram Story. So if
you're not following. Go ahead and pause now follow me at the Peace creator, because
that's where you get a lot of the behind-the-sensation, the behind-the-scenes footage. I
have my peace pursuits, Facebook Community, but Instagram Is another place that I
just show up authentically me and just you get some of that behind-the-scenes footage,
right? So if you were following along, I know a lot of people enjoyed that life like a local
tour and found it to be valuable, right? They thought, Hey, I'm going to do one myself.
And so I have not posted that on YouTube. I'm not even 100 percent sure that I will. I'm
working on it, y'all. I promise. But in the meantime, between time, I hope you were able
to just watch it live. With that being said, right, you know, I like to just do facts right. I like
I'm a girl that kind of like some facts. I like to research things. And did y'all know on this
day, October five? Thirty-five years ago. Thirty-five years ago, to this day, Huey
Lewis’sthe song Stuck On You was the number one song in the U.S., and I know
somebody might be saying, Well, who portrays? I don't know. No Huey Lewis. Like,
Who is that? Why is he a factor? Listen, I didn't know who Huey Lewis was, either. I'm
gonna be real again. This is just my quest of wanting to know information. But I found
the song and it was cute. It was a little bop, y'all. I was, you know, I was rocking this
man. I was getting my little Shupe on, you know, I watch the music video on Youtube, so
I would encourage all to listen to it. It's a real good feel go feel-good right?
And not only was that Song birth, but other amazing Music and, You know, was birthed
during this time frame and music stations were dominated By Lionel Richie and Janet
Jackson, Madonna, Whitney Houston, my girl, Patti LaBelle and, even Dionne
Warwick.
Her song went on to win a Grammy that year. The song That's what friends are for.
I don't know if I remember that. That's what friends are for. Keep shining. No, when you
can always count on me for sure. That's what friends are for. Let me tell you, I sang
about Dionne, OK? Was getting some tracks like if I were, If I Recall Correctly, Diane
Was out here singing songs. She was on here. She sang that song. She was on We all.
We are the world, I believe, with Michael Jackson. I think she even had a little stint
where she was telling. Fortunes like Miss Cleo, like your girl, was out here, contracts,
Miss Diane said, Look, you're not about to trap me, I'm Not Going to box me in. I'm
going to get All these checks, OK, like I'm not even mad at her. But yeah, that song
went on to be number one, right? Or I'm sorry not to be number one, but she went on to
get a Grammy for that. The number one movie at that time was Top Gun Water beds
and VCRs were a household item, and some of that may be a little younger Maybe like,
Oh, what? Like, Uh oh, what a waterbed and a VCR. What is that? That sounds
Foreign? Right?
Beds made out of the water, OK? And it was so fun to be on, like literally just kind of
rolling around on this water bed. But don't you? Don't you get on that bed with a heel or
something? Why don't you get on there with no type of sharp object? The bed is over
her whole floor, wet up the house, just drenched, right? And this is a tool that Is before
Dvr. Right before our time, it was Putting a tape in the VCR where you could record
something that was happening on live TV and watch it back later. It was pretty dope,
right? Again, it's before our DVR digital times. That was a household item. Some of the
greatest NBA NBA players were Larry Bird and Magic Johnson and Kareem
Abdul-Jabbar. You know, that was a dope experience and the Fashion consisted
Of sweater dresses and shoulder pads and leopard prints.
And listen, my Brothers and sisters were styling and profiling, and these colorful
garments and Beanies and Jumpsuits and leather girls like they were laid down. Shorty,
do you hear me? Ok, like who gonna check me? All right. But they were getting it
separately, though there was some scandal happening on this day. Thirty-five years
ago, it was the Iran-Contra Scandal, and This was the first leak concerning,
The Iran-Contra Scandal, Which occurred. It occurred when Eugene Hansen first was
captured by troops in Nicaragua, where he ultimately confessed That he was
Shipping military supplies into Nicaragua For use by the Contras,
And that the Contras had been created and funded by the United States and run
By the United States CIA. Right.
And so this was a big deal because there were a lot of investigations, Very
Persistent journalists and Congress where were found to be, you know, involved in this
secret sale of U.S. weapons to Iran. And the proceeds from those
Sales were used To covertly fund the contra war in Nicaragua. So it was just such a
tumultuous period, but also so many amazing things happening, right? Another thing
That happened on October 5th, thirty-five years ago happens to be that I was born to a
phenomenal woman who was told she would never be able to have children again. But
here I am on this day. Thirty-five years ago, so ready to get out and see the world that
I'm told I was about to come out in the toilet when my mother was in the restroom. Like,
that's how quick I was, she says. That's how she knew I was always going to be kind of
quick, a fast Learner because I almost came out in the toilet. And as amazing as my
brother is, you know, they thought they would have to just have, you know, he would
have to secure their hearts forever, like he was just going to have to hold it down. And
that was some big shoes for him to have to hold like that. He was going to be the only
one. But then I came along seven years later.
And so for my parents,
I was known as their miracle baby, but I hadn't always celebrated or even been
celebrated as such. And that's not from them, right? I was celebrated by my
Parents, but I was not always celebrated, nor did I celebrate myself because I didn't act
like I was a miracle. So let me tell you all today, right? Like anybody who knows me
knows how big I am on birthday celebrations. Like, I celebrate the entire month. I don't
have a birthday. I have a birth month. Ok, like your girl celebrates all month long.
Typically every weekend is filled, but you know, again, that's not how it always was. And
I would have, you know, These events every Weekend sometimes would be something
during the week. But generally every single weekend I would have an itinerary of events
of things that my friends would come to family members, associates, et cetera, and say,
Hey, this is what I'm doing. If you want to come, come. If you don't, I love you all the
same, right? And again, it wasn't always like this, but several years ago, if you all had
listened to my prior story, the season finale of season one, you'll know that I was in a
relationship at the time where one. The relationship ended just a few days after my
birthday, so that was disruptive. It was earth-shattering.
But even During the time We were together, I was not Celebrated. I was felt like I was
downright neglected during birthdays. You know, it was something that wasn't
necessarily acknowledged. It was one of those things where it made me just feel like
maybe people didn't care or that I wasn't worthy of being celebrated. It made me feel
that it took a hit to my self-esteem, right? It made me feel like, well, maybe birthdays
shouldn't be a big deal. Maybe it isn't something that I should Be worried About, you
know, right? Like, if I celebrate All year, then the birthday doesn't matter, Right? And so I
told myself and tried to convince Me that the day That I was born, the day that I had
Been told I was a miracle baby, I wasn't a miracle. I was just another person on this
Earth that just so happened to be here. I was just another person that was just taking up
space. I was just another person that was Created as a burden to have To purchase a
gift For or to Do the obligatory birthday celebration and happy birthday songs, right?
That is kind of how I perceive the day, and that's how I felt, even though I didn't always,
you know, I didn't have parents or whatever that made me feel that way, but I had
various relationships that had made me feel that way right again, particularly the one
that I Mentioned in the finale Story. And so because of that, I ended up saying, Well, I
will never have a birthday like this again. I will never be disappointed like this again. I
am going to make sure that I celebrate myself, right? I'm going to celebrate all month. I
am going to have an activity plan every single weekend of the month. And I literally like I
say, y'all, I'm talking about every single weekend. I would have something planned,
even Some things around throughout the week,
And it was me trying to accommodate every person in my life. It was me trying to
accommodate my family on my mother's side, me trying to accommodate my family on
my dad's side. It was me trying to accommodate my friends from back in the day from in
the neighborhood. It was me trying to accommodate the friends that I knew from
college. It was me trying to accommodate coworkers.
It was me trying To accommodate other associates from social groups I was in. I mean,
I was trying to accommodate everyone and create a schedule for everyone to be
invited. But it was like, I can't have an event for everybody because that was stressful.
So let me just accommodate everyone and have a bunch of Events, right?
And so what it ended up doing, though it didn't even feel celebratory for me, ended up
causing more stress because what ended up happening is every year when I would try
to conjure up these birthday plans, something From my perspective, bad would Happen,
Right? It would be something That would be disruptive in some of my relationships. It
would be something that would be disruptive in my job. It would be something disruptive
within health, within my family, et cetera, right?
It was Always something. And so it was my way of trying to create the celebrations to
kind of brace for what was going to come right. Trying to brace for the disappointment
that may happen. And again, it just ended up causing me more stress, more conflict,
more pain because it made me feel like something just went wrong every A year and I
was Just exhausted. I was exhausted from trying to Plan everything For all of these
different groups Of people, and I had to realize That instead
Of, you know, allowing the opportunity to be celebrated, I ultimately had robbed my
friends and family of that by trying to control the outcome myself. And so, you know, as
much as I am an advocate for self-love and self-care and celebrating Myself, I realized
This was not, you know, this was no Longer An occasion or a display of self-love or
self-care. I was not just celebrating myself because it was Monday. It was. It was really
from Self-pity, you know?
And so I want to break this down. So y'all understand the difference between the two
because I know somebody out there like, Well, Patrice, what is wrong with celebrating
yourself?
That's a good thing. It Is. It absolved thing. It's a great thing to celebrate yourself for any
reason. It doesn't have to be for a birthday, right? It doesn't have to have a special
reason, I eve. Eve, you should celebrate
Yourself at any given time,
But the difference again in this instance was I was celebrating from self-pity, not from
Self-love, and The difference between self-care or self-love is it's preventative. It's
preventative care. It is the care and love and compassion that you are showing to
Yourself to sustain your wellbeing. And it's in.
It's you doing that just because you feel like you deserve it. Just not because you've
done anything for anyone, not because you have performed in some kind of way, not
because you're expecting something in return. It is literally because you just deserve it.
It's not for any achievement, et cetera. You just deserve it because you know you are
walking this Earth. You've survived another
Day and you deserve it, right?
Whereas the self-pity celebrations are reactive, it is. The woe is me. I might as well
celebrate myself because if I don't, no one else will. No one else thinks I'm important
enough or worthy enough to be celebrated, right? It's that that negative mindset that
makes us feel that what we have to do is because if we don't, who else will? It's the
thought process that you are not worthy enough to be celebrated. It's the thought
process that you aren't important enough to be celebrated. It's a thought process that
people don't love you enough or think that you're good enough to even want to
celebrate you, right? And that's wrong. It's false. And it's that that type of thought
process that drives you into this hole that does not yield positive results for you, right?
What I've learned is that essentially we will try to manufacture peace because we don't
want to do the real work that it would take to eliminate us from continuing to mask the
pain. Right. So we manufacture this piece. We pretend That, oh Yes, I am all about me.
Oh yes, I love me. Look at me doing it. I'm doing this. I'm doing the damn thing. I'm, you
know, I'm all of this in a bag of chips or whatever. But really, it's like, Who are you trying
to prove this to me? Are you right? We put on the facade so that we don't have to do the
real work to sit with the pain Of, I'm going on this party. I'm showing out like this
because I'm afraid that if I don't, I'm going to be disappointed. I'm afraid that if I don't,
people will even forget that it's my birthday. I won't even get a happy birthday text or
phone call. Somebody won't even think of taking me out for a piece of birthday cake. It
won't be acknowledged at all. And if I'm not acknowledged for my birthday, for the day
that I'm born, does it mean that I even exist? Is my existence on this Earth even worthy
enough to be spoken about? Right? And those are the thoughts that we end up telling
ourselves and what we end up feeling, but we don't want to share with the world
because we're afraid. We're afraid that other people will look at us differently, we’re
afraid that other people will judge us. We're afraid that someone else won't understand
or that it makes us self-centered because we want to be celebrated. We want to be
acknowledged. We want to feel that we're important to somebody again wanting to
manufacture the piece, pretending that everything is OK when deep down inside, we're
just masking the pain. And it's similar to the to to the
Facts that I've read earlier. You know, I started off talking to you all about what music
was popular back then on this day that I was born and the fashion trends and all of
those things.
But one Of literally the biggest scandals was occurring on the day that I was born
thirty-five years Ago.
But when I go to research, you know, it's buried online in documentation by the fashion
trends and the pop culture And All of the tangible things that don't Reflect the true The
chaotic state of the country or the people at that time. Do you know what I mean? And
like short, some people were thriving. Then some people were surviving amid right,
that's what we expected to do. That's what peace even means pivoting as chaos
ensues. But the very idea and the
Evidence that shows how this significant event in history took place and doesn’t bury it
fifty-fifth by things that don't even matter. It is a literal visualization of how we, as
humans, will try to mask things with clothes or Jobs or Accomplishments to mask the
things that are hurting us, right? And it's like it made me think, Well, how many of us are
like that, right? Maybe for you as at birthday celebrations, right? Because maybe like,
well, I ain't never been a big person to celebrate a birthday. Is not that big of a deal to
me. I’m Trippin. I don’t need anybody to celebrate me. I don't need to celebrate myself.
It's just another year to remind me that I'm getting old And that may be You. That's cool.
That's not everybody's thing, but right. It could be something else. It could be your
profession and the idea of being Promoted, right? I know I Have a pretty driven
community. Maybe you had a conversation with your boss about being promoted, right?
And some conversations were taking place to say, Hey, I'm grooming you to be
promoted to take this position. I think you're ready for this leadership and so you are
taking on,
You know, maybe they tell you, we want You to take on this project or whatever, right?
So you take on this project, but then you show the initiative, you take on another project.
You do this, you start mentoring yourself. You work the longer hours you start working
12 and 15 and 16, 17 hours days. Sometimes you're working on the weekends and you
do all these things and then the year rolls around. It comes time for annual assessments
or whatever, and you get to pass up for the promotion. Someone else that maybe has
been there a short amount of time than you or that you feel has fewer qualifications,
less experience that you believe is not as qualified,
That you were unaware,
Maybe had similar conversations with your manager. They are the ones that end up
getting selected for the position, even though you thought it was a done deal. Right?
And so it's like, what does that do to you, right? What did that cost you when you were
doing all those things to be promoted? You added on stress. It takes uncertainty out of
you, and then it can create enemies out of coworkers. Low self-esteem, because then
you start comparing yourself, Well, what did they have that I didn't have? What did they
do that I didn't do? I thought I was taking all these projects and I was delivering well with
the clients or delivering well with the customers, delivering well with the parents,
whoever it is that your client base, right? I thought I was delivering. So if I was picked
over, what does this say about me? What does this mean about me as an employee?
Do I even have a future with this company anymore? Right. All of those thoughts go
through your head because you've done all of these things. Be based on thinking you're
going to get promoted, right? And it wasn't even probably authentically you, right? So
then maybe you change your behavior because now you're like, Well, I'm never going to
get passed over for promotion again. I'm going to mimic the behaviors of this other
person and maybe this other person again. Maybe they were working even later hours,
right? Maybe they add on working on holidays. Right. So you then mimic those
behaviors, become more cutthroat. You're less friendly To your Coworkers. You are
probably the most jovial person. But now you kind of side in people. You sideline your
boss a little bit, you don't trust them. You don't know if you can trust what they're saying.
And so it creates this Adversity that Is not even authentic to who you are, right? And it
requires you to maintain various attitudes and behaviors That aren't In alignment with
who you Are, which Causes you to exert more energy because that's something that
you have to maintain, right?
If you are this person that Then becomes competitive, it's almost like you remain
competitive and then people are looking at you sideways, like, who is this person? I
don't even I thought Patrice was nice, but now she's looking at me like, Well, she don't
want to be a team player. She don't want to share the work process. All of these things
that again, because it's birthed out of an expectation that you had to be promoted, but
now you weren't. And so it's causing you to say, Oh, well, I know I'm not going to be
passed over again.
I bet you, I'll eliminate that this time. I'm going to work doubly hard. I'm going to be
doubly fast and I don't care who I got to step on in the process to get it done. But what
does that cost you? What did it cost you, right? And so like, you get the promotion and
as I say, it's these attitudes and behaviors that you have to maintain once you've gotten
there. And do you even feel comfortable once you there knowing that it wasn't in the
manner that you would have wanted or desire to obtain the promotion which you have
wanted to lie on a coworker or which you have Wanted to be underhanded Or
undermining or not be a team player to get their promotion, which you have wanted to
withhold information from a colleague just to make it appear that you were more
knowledgeable? Is that really who you are? Right. And so you are excited about the
promotion. You're being celebrated, you're celebrating yourself for the promotion, but
that's a feel-good at that point. Does it feel like you earned it at that point? Right?
Bottom line is, I get it, y'all like a lot of things. Things because, you know, I know
someone is in the background probably thinking, well, Patrice, a lot of great things are
birthed out of pain, right? That's what drives us. That is what helps us move in the
direction we need to go. It pushes us to be better. And yada yada Yada right past
Partially. That is kind of what it is. Pete, you know, the terminology or the acronym of
peace is created by, you know, being able to pivot even as chaos ensues, right? Having
the ability to change the trajectory of your life even as chaotic events happen. So I get
that there are a lot of great things that are birthed out of pain. But if your behaviors and
actions are consistently showing up as a result of wounded pain, then you can't be
operating in peace. Right? And that's the difference. You know, I am oftentimes
reminded of the framework that I have to cover with my clients, you know, and
obviously, I covered with them in greater depth. We go into greater details and dig deep
into that framework. But it's the same method that I have to apply to myself and a lot of
various situations, right? And I think I've spoken to you all about it before with my
unleash the peace method with which is to proclaim, evaluate, articulate, comprehend
and empowering, right? And so again, I had to go through my method even as I was
approaching, as I've been approaching some of these birthdays the last couple of years
because it's like, Well, Patrice, what you know, you're like, Well, you told this this story,
what are you going to do this year to celebrate, right? Thirty fifth birthday, what are you
going to do to celebrate? So I had to go through my method and starting with proclaim
right, I had to acknowledge that what I was doing was, you know, I was trying to
manufacture peace. I was trying to manufacture triumph in this situation instead of
recognizing that it was a trauma response. You know, and I had to realize that I wasn't
doing this from a perspective of wanting to celebrate myself because it was causing me
conflict. It was causing me stress. It was causing chaos in my life. It was causing me to
feel still exhausted. It was causing all these negative adverse feelings that shouldn't
have been feeling if I was celebrating a birthday. If it was,the idea of celebrating another
year of life, then why was I so exhausted? Why did I feel still unfulfilled, right? And I had
to make that, you know, be self-aware to make that declaration and kind of proclaim that
right and kind of go through the other piece of my method to understand what was
happening, why I was responding out of trauma instead of triumph. Right. It wasn't
something that was to be duplicated where people could say, Oh, Patrice, I'm going to
take your idea and celebrate all month, too, because it was not actually in the right
sense. It was not birthed from the correct perspective. It was not birth with good
intentions. And so this year,
Like, Ok, let me be clear, I'm still booked and busy this year, y'all. All right. I think I don't
know if that will ever change. My calendar stays booked and busy, but I do not plan
anything for my birthday. And when I tell y'all, I've had the most amazing birthday
already, my birthday started probably a week or Two earlier This year. Even I had
people that have wanted to celebrate me. Friends and family members that have
personally reached out to Me without Me having to say anything but saying, Hey, are
you available this day? We want to get on your calendar. We know you get busy quickly.
We want to get on your calendar this day to celebrate you, right? And how much more
freeing is that to know that people love you that much that they want to take the time out
to celebrate you? Because they always say that you were the miracle, but you just didn't
see it yourself, right? And so for me, this has been instrumental to reflect and
understand and remind myself that I was a miracle baby. Thirty-five years ago that I was
placed on this Earth for a reason, and I need to operate as if I'm a miracle for myself as
if I'm a miracle to others lives as if I'm a miracle and my job as if I'm a miracle when I
walk into the grocery store as if I'm a miracle. Wherever it is that I'm going, I'm a
miracle. And because I'm a miracle, people recognize me. As such, people celebrate
me, And even if you don't have a story similar to mine, you know, maybe your mother
was not told that she would never be able to have children again. But when a woman
has a child, there are things their body goes through. There are transformations their
body goes through from birth to a baby. They literally. Put their lives on the line. And so
I'm here to tell you, you are also a miracle. It doesn't matter. You don't have to have
some outlandish story, right?
But if you're here And you've made it to today, then you're also a miracle and you
should treat yourself. As such, you should operate. You should celebrate yourself as
such. And I want to take the time and thank my Mom and my dad.
Share this day with them and thank them for bringing me into this world because I know
it's not always easy to be parents, but I appreciate you both and I appreciate the
sacrifices. It means a lot and I know I'm not a parent and there are things that I will
never understand, but I like to believe I'm getting wiser over the years. And so again, I
think you and I honor you both. And with that, I'd like to implore you all that are Listening
to think about what areas of your life that you may have been responding to out of
trauma instead of triumph,
Right?
Because it doesn't have to be a birthday celebration like I went over. But there may be
areas of your life where you realize I've been putting on this facade like things are great
or that I've been celebrating myself in these areas, or that I've been victorious in these
areas. But in the background behind the scenes, I am still conflicted. I am still feeling
unworthy. I am still people pleased that I'm still performing for others. I am still trying to
do something to get something back right. I am still feeling depressed or anxious or
stressed, or that my mind is cluttered. Various behaviors show up to show us that it's
you operating out of trauma instead of triumph. And so again, I want you to think about
what areas of your life that You may have been
Previously responding out of trauma instead of triumph. Write it down and to hold
yourself accountable, I want you to send me an email, a DM, or even drop it in the
comments Of this Episode post. I don't care if you listen to this a week from now, two
months from now, a year from now, you can find the post and or send me a DM and
email whatever it is that you this episode because I want you to hold yourself
accountable and I want to be able to hold you accountable and tell me what areas you
plan to transform trauma into triumph with peace. That's the key to peace. All right. So,
my friends, that is all I have for you today. I am going to continue to celebrate and the
rest of my birth month.
So if you Are listening to this episode on an actual day, October 5th, I love to hear from
you. But yeah, I'm going to just go enjoy the rest of my birth month here. But you will be
hearing some amazing episodes throughout this month as well from other guests that I
have that I'm excited for you to hear from. And you know, again, I'm just I'm excited
about season two. I think it's going to be some great episodes for
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